taboo, tabu [təˈbuː] vb (tr) to place under a taboo [from Tongan tapu] adj 1. (Sociology) forbidden or disapproved of; placed under a social prohibition or ban taboo words 2. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) (in Polynesia and other islands of the South Pacific) marked off as simultaneously sacred and forbidden n pl -boos, -bus 1. (Sociology) any prohibition resulting from social or other conventions 2. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) ritual restriction or prohibition, esp of something that is considered holy or unclean Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003
We’ve all heard it said before, or maybe we were the ones said it. You know, the hushed tone, the look over the shoulder to make sure no one was looking or within earshot… Sex or more precisely – pornography. There I said it or typed it out anyway. This one word can make a grown men blush; cause mothers to cover the eyes and ears of their young children. This word can devastate homes, schools, cities, governments, and yes churches, especially youth ministries.
I’m not interested in this blog post being a ten step and your “free from the addiction” of porno conversation. Nor am I interested in this post becoming a diatribe of how the church, it’s leaders, and society as a whole have failed from protecting our children and teens from this epidemic. What I want from this blog post is to actually get this subject out in the open or to but it out on the table, for parents, youth pastors, and church leaders. Some have dared to do this, and there are individuals and ministries such as http://xxxchurch.com/ that address this issue, they “dare” to make it an open topic of conversation.
No other time in my sixteen years of youth ministry have I had to deal with this more than this present time. Teens have access to it through laptops, iPads, their mobil phones, iTouches, and any other portable means. They view it, send it, text it, and do it in any means possible. They are influenced and exposed to pornography through TV, peers, and parents. It’s everywhere, but in the Church we generally don’t talk about it – it’s TABOO. Maybe if we ignore the “P” word it will go away and disappear.
I’m tired of dealing with hurt and broken families because of the infiltration of porn in their homes! Can we finally talk about it openly in the Church and make war on it!
In the New Testament there are many passages that deal with sexual immorality: In 1 Corinthians 6:13-20 (READ) we see that sexual immorality (sexual immorality is premarital sex, pornography, sexting, & other like activities) is sin that is done against our own body. When we sin sexually, we tear down our dignity and self-respect. Additionally, when we commit acts of sexual immorality with others, we contribute to their broken self-respect & destruction of their dignity. Also, if we are Christians, when we commit sexual immorality, we contribute to dishonoring God & particularly the Holy Spirit that lives within us.
- Sexual sin is against our own bodies / sexual immorality destroys our self-respect, dignity, & that of those we do it with
- The body is not meant for sexual immorality (see 1 Corinthians 6:13-17)
- God’s Holy Spirit lives within us, if we are Christians
- We belong to God and were bought at a price (Jesus death on the cross)