I’ve been thinking about the book To Own a Dragon by Donald Miller, recently. I don’t know why – maybe it’s because I’ve been thinking about my life growing up, or maybe I’ve been thinking about my relationship with my son… Either way, I felt I needed to blog about this book again (I blogged about it about three years ago). This book a must read for single parent mom of boys and for anyone who works with boys that live in single parent mom households. In this book, author Donald Miller, reflects on his own life of growing-up with out a dad. He talks candidly about the effects it had on him and the struggles and trials that he went through, and still goes through.
Many people do not understand the power of having an involved dad can have on a young man. When I was in undergraduate school, I remember hearing in one of my counseling classes, my professor make a statement that the father is the filter of the home. The father is the one who controls what words are used, what entertainment is aloud in the home, and etc… What he was essentially saying is that the dad is the one who will ultimately dictates what the morals and values will be in the home. And when the father’s morals and values are out of whack or absent, the kids (Especially boys) will also take the shape or lack-of-shape as that of the dad’s.
This book will help you be prepared to better help your son, or the young man that you build a relationship. It will help you understand his thought process and decision-making, and it will help you understand the confusion he is going through! I stumbled upon this book three years and read it in a couple of days. It made me laugh and it made me bawl my eyes out (People who know me, know that I don’t cry easily). My wife also read it with me and said that through this book, she can understand me better. This book has helped me on my own personal journey and has also helped me in my ministry. I am deeply grateful for Donald Miller writing this book…
Donald Miller began a foundation called The Mentoring Project which seeks to mentor fatherless kids. Here is what they say: “We are a non-profit that is providing mentors for fatherless kids. If you’re interested in changing America, one kid at a time, join us!” http://www.thementoringproject.org/