I have a confession to make.
I view you as my friends. So I want to be real with you. This week has been a little rough. I’ve been giving in to the stress this week. I’ve let the little things get to me. I know it’s not good for me, but learning to not sweat the small things—the things I can’t control is something that’s on my too do list. I honestly thought this was something I didn’t struggle with, but I am realizing there are several things that I need to work on. One of them is I am good at not outwardly showing I’m stressed, but on the inside it’s eating me up.
Dealing with stress is stressful.
Worry, stress, and anxiety don’t add to your success or add days to your life. Jesus even asked that famous rhetorical question, “And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?” —Matthew 6:27
I would also argue not only does it not add an hour to your life, but stress can kill you. There is some research which shows stress can increase your blood pressure and may damage your arteries: Stress and Heart Health.
It’s okay to not be okay.
When we become anxious or worried or stressed about people, situations and circumstance, what we are really saying is it’s more important for us to control things than it is to be in the moment and love the people, places, and things we are sharing the moment with. And I’ve got to tell you, I have missed a lot of moments—I need to be okay with not being okay.
No one tackles the burdened of stress alone, everyone who is part of our community is touched by our worry and stress.
I have also learned stressing out about things not only affects me, but it also reaches out and grabs hold of the people around me—directly and indirectly. I either become short-tempered and lash out at them or people who love and care about me become concerned and begin to worry—this then affects their lives. No one tackles the burdened of stress alone, everyone who is part of our community is touched by our worry and stress.
What’s it gonna be?
This is the question I learned to ask myself this week. What’s it gonna be—will I chose to stress over things I can’t control or will I chose freedom and to be in the moment with people I love?
So after a few long walks, some breathing exercises, and talking with my Abba in heaven, I learned to let go and care about things that add to my life—like loving my family and walking in amazement of the wonders of God’s love.
What’s it gonna be for you?